Are White Girls Really Easier?

Ok, first off calm down, don't let the title upset you! This is a question I've always asked myself and my friends (white&black)....are white girls really easier (to sleep with that is)?

Growing up I went to a majority white private school, there were rarely other black kids in my classes and I hated that. Fortunately I was an outgoing person and easily made friends with the other kids at my school. When I entered high school, sex became a HUGE deal for my peers and I. Whether it was "hooking up" or who "slept" with who, it always seemed to be a topic at hand. I don't know about anyone else, but the white girls at my private school slept with guys like it was nothing. They'd have sex at parties, in cars, or wherever. Being around that environment for so many years always gave me the idea that YES in fact white girls were easier to sleep with than girls of other races. My mother had always raised me to be a lady first, I didn't even want to kiss anyone if we weren't dating, let alone sleep with them! My black girlfriends were raised the same way by their parents and didn't get down with sleeping around. Generally as African American women most of us are raised in predominantly black churches and brought up that you are to "keep your legs closed," "let the man chase you, " etc.... I brought this topic up to a group of friends while we are out to eat in the Village a couple of weeks ago...

"You guys I'm starting another website, its called whatwhitewomenneedtoknow.com," I expressed to a diverse group of friends on a rainy night. The entire table erupted in laughter as I said this with a straight face. The group included 3 African American women, 2 white women, 1 Dominican woman, 2 African American man, and one PuertoRican man. I explained to them that my soror and I had been in the ladies bathroom at a friends birthday party on the Upper East side when we heard a young white woman crying. Baffled we asked her what was wrong and it went a little something like this (mind you we were all beyond tipsy)

Us: Hey "sweetie" (lol) are you ok

Her: No, i just feel sooooo stupid (still crying)

Us: What happened? Don't cry

Her: Well, I keep calling and texting this guy that i really really like I slept with him. and he's ignoring me and I just don't get it!

Us: Well how long have you known him?

Her: (sniffling) a week

Us: Wow....well there's your answer

Her: Huh

Before I knew it my soror launched into a speech about why you shouldn't sleep with guys so soon. "They'll have no respect for you," she practically screamed at the small circle who was surrounding us now. I swear it seemed as if a light bulb was going off in the adies heads in that small bathroom. (I'm not kidding this really happened!) By the time my soror was finished speaking they gave her a round of applause, I on the other hand couldn't stop laughing.

My friends surrounding me at the table were now cracking up as well. The two white women at the table asked me if I had really never slept with anyone I had just met. "Uh, No!" They had a hard time believing me and the other women at the table as well. The ladies told us stories about making out with complete strangers at bars and then proceeding to sleep with them. Mind you these women aren't dumb, they have college degrees, one is in medical school, and the other is getting her Master's in psychology. They are both very attractive women and I'm sure any guy would love to date them. In their opinion sex just wasn't that big of a deal as long as you were safe. I argued that I didn't understand how you could sleep with someone you didn't know. They argued back who really "knows" the person you have sex with? In all honesty you only know what they tell you, which might not be the truth. Women who've been married for 20 years sometimes find out their husband was gay for 19 of those years. So, they argued, does it really matter how long you've known the person your sleeping with?

I said that yes, it does matter! We argued for the next three hours and I came up with the conclusion that it doesn't matter what race you are, it matters how you were raised. It will always baffle my mind, but I guess we will just have to agree to disagree....

What do you think?