The One

::I really can't stand it when my male friends are right about things. It makes me feel...defeated::

"That's what's wrong with you females, you always think you're the one", my friend said to me in an intense phone conversation. ( he was ranting because I told him he's a heart breaker...which he is...) "I never make promises to any woman...I'm just doing me, and when I find the one I find her. Females always think that they are the one for every dude. Now it's ok for the woman to go out and date different guys, but if we do it we're dogs...heart breakers...whatever. That's not fair."

Although I wanted so badly to tell him how wrong he was, I couldn't because I was guilty of the " I'm the one for him and if he's not with me he's missing out on the best thing since life" syndrome. Now that I think about the majority of my female friends are as well (you are too..don't look at the screen like that).
We somehow have embarked upon this insane confidence as women that if a guy decides he doesn't want to be with us...stay committed to us...then he's the crazy one.

"It's his lost..." we tell ourselves..."I was the BEST thing that ever happened to him."

:: Wait a second::

Were you really the best thing that ever happened to him? Seriously....? Probably not.


It's a double standard, we like to keep the guy around who in most cases isn't treating us right, but we're just keeping him until we find something better. Now how and why is this fair? In actuality ladies, we get on men for doing the exact same things that we are guilty of...


Tell me if I'm wrong...but I doubt it.