Let me first start out by saying this day has been absolutely insane. I'm convinced that I have some type of instinct jinx. For some reason I have always been able to tell when other people's girlfriends or boyfriends are up to no good. I'm always right. I've never been wrong-and have even caught people cheating! If you don't want to know the truth about your mate-I wouldn't introduce them to me! (How come I can't have this instinct when it comes to my own relationships?) So unfair.... anywho this is a blog for another time..another day.
So here's what's really on my mind...having it all...what the hell is having it "all" anyway?
Last Sunday I dragged myself out the bed to attend church with one of my closest friends. I must be honest and say that I felt quite uncomfortable from the moment I entered, not because of the people (who are very kind) or the religion (which is different from mine)...I just didn't "fit" in. I starred at the other woman in the room who wore loose fitting skirts, barely any makeup, and some with no earrings. I on the other hand had on a pretty tight pencil skirt (hey-i gained a few pounds-don't judge), medium size diamond(ok iamond) hoop earrings, and uh you could certainly see that I was wearing makeup (had a long night). My friend and I sat in the sanctuary, listening intently as the woman who was giving us our Sunday school lesson preached about being a submissive woman......
Of course me being the "alpha" female that I am-my bells immediately went off. Uh-being submissive to who? She taught us how the Bible says its important to let the man be the head of the household and to not jump in when he is lecturing, punishing, etc., the kids....he should be the ultimate decision maker. I of course wanted to raise my hand and scream out loud that I totally disagreed. Instead I sat there with my jacket on (which i keep on when i feel uncomfortable) and tapped my foot wanting this particular Sunday school lesson to be over. But then I took another look around the room and starred at the women once again. I didn't know their stories or what they had been through. Maybe there was a reason they all agreed so whole heatedly with what the teacher was telling us...maybe it was their belief in what the Bible said..I really didn't know. However most of them did have kids, a husband, a job, a church family-they had it "all" right?
I couldn't help but wonder-is that what you have to do to have it all? Be submissive to a man?
A few days later I sat in a board room with some of the most intelligent women in the world. These women have traveled all across the globe, spoke different languages, held multiple degrees, and were each absolutely stunning in their own right. There was not a chipped nail, a wrinkled skirt, shirt, pants, or an unpolished shoe among them. They were truly "sharp" in every essence of the word and I felt honored just to be in their presence. However, as I looked around the room, I noticed not one of them-NOT one had on a wedding band. These women had to be between the ages of 32-50..and none of them were married?!?
After talking to many of them I learned that most had been married at least once, been engaged, and even had a boyfriend. They explained to me that having a man and a high end career was almost impossible and had accepted the fact that they were just not meant to be wives and mothers. As I sat there listening to their individual stories, I couldn't help but feel disappointed.
The more I thought about it, the more I realized that they were right it was in fact impossible to have it all. Say you did have the high end career, the husband, and the kids....you'd end up neglecting at least one of those-right?
I don't know....maybe I'm wrong...but I doubt it.
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