Good D*&K and Bad Credit

I rushed out of work yesterday, trying my best to make it to where I had to be on time. I drove with my right knee, held onto my watter bottle, and adjusted the phone so I could listen to my girl as she cried about her boyfriend...again.


I sighed heavily slightly annoyed that after all these years she's still talking to this dude who abuses her mentally on a regular basis. She's convinced that there is no other dude out there for her and is doing everything in her power to hold on to this one. I just don't get it. He switches jobs every month because he can't hold onto one, he still lives with his mama, he has not one, not two, but THREE babies, each by different baby mothers, and he isn't the best looking thing in the world either (I'm just saying).


"What is it about him?" I finally asked getting frustrated with her crying loudly into my ear.

"It's everything," she said. "Its..its..I don't know I can't explain it."

"It's the SEX!" I yelled into the phone.

She just laughed nervously and simply said, "Yea."


She went onto explain that she was convinced that no one in the world could do her like that "man" could. He knew her, she was comfortable with him, she didn't have to pretend with him, and she was afraid of never having that again. I got quiet on the other end of the phone, pondering on my ex and thinking how I used to feel the exact same way.

You get so used to a person sometimes, and there b.s., that you start making excuses for them. I did that for years and years and years, until one day I just got tired of it. All of the fighting and the arguing, lying, cheating, and dumb ish gets old. Although it took me awhile to get the lesson, I'd rather be learning it now, than be 40 and still not getting it.


After an eternity of silence I said quietly into the phone, "Just let it go. You know it's not working for you, and it never will. Relationships and love are about so much more than just good sex. Is this what you want to spend your life doing, fighting for someone who treats you so bad because the sex is good? The only thing this man can possibly give you is Good D&*k and Bad Credit."


::silence::


She said: What if I never find someone that can make me feel good like that, who can hold me like that, who makes me feel so safe, what if that never happens for me again.

I said: You will find it, and when you do, it will be something wonderful, because it's real. Love...real love is much deeper than what happens in the bedroom. And when he comes along, you'll be so thankful for everything that you went thru with the wrong man, so that you'll know what a wonderful man really is when he does come. When that does happen you'll be able to lay a foundation with him, and build a life together, and that's what it's all about.


She said: I get it...I do.

I said: Yep..and besides your mama didn't raise you to be chasing after no man!


We both burst into fits of laughter...


She said: Good D&*K and bad credit, hell that sums up 50% of black men

I said: Yea...you're right.